Have you ever found it difficult to start an important thing even though you were aware that it mattered to you? Possibly, you have been delaying a project, a new goal, or a life decision again and again, not because you don’t care, but because an inner part of you prevents you from proceeding. People frequently confuse that sensation with being lazy, however it is actually the fear of failure which is afraid to show itself. That sensation is most of the time confused with the lack of energy or motivation, however, it is actually the fear of failure that is there at the bottom.
When Fear Holds You Back?
Quite often, it is not lack of motivation that makes people remain stuck in the same place, but their fear of failure. It is that little voice inside your head that says, “What if I do it wrong?” or “What will people think if I am not successful?”.
Therefore, you decide not to try and thus not be disappointed. Taking the first step feels like the most difficult thing to do, and you say to yourself it is safer to stay still than to face possible judgment or criticism.
The Trap of Perfectionism
One of the main reasons people keep postponing their actions is perfectionism. One of the things that you keep telling yourself is that you will begin when everything is perfect, when the time is right, when you feel more confident, when you have learned just a bit more. However, perfection never actually comes.
Waiting all the time like this puts you under a lot of pressure and makes you anxious. You keep getting ready, thinking too much, and making plans, but nothing really goes to the next level. Actually, it is not that you need more time but rather that you are afraid that your best will not be good enough.
How the Past Shapes These Fears
These patterns are frequently the result of your earlier experiences. Maybe, when you were a kid, you were scolded for your faults or were compared with others. Maybe, you learned that making a mistake leads to feeling ashamed. Over time, your mind has convinced itself that making no attempt is more secure than failing in front of people.
Real Experiences, Real Shifts
Riya always wanted to have her own business. She would spend hours planning, researching, and visualizing every detail — but when it came to actually doing it, she would be stuck. Her dreams of business ownership days turned into weeks, and the dream stayed on paper.
Initially, she thought she was merely lacking motivation and discipline. However, Riya knew it was something different. Whenever she would think to start, her mind would be full of doubts — What if I fail? What if people laugh at me? What if I’m not good enough?
Step-by-step, Riya realized that her hesitation was not about the efforts, infact it was a fear. To find out the root of her fear, she started going to a few transformation sessions. During one of the sessions, she remembered how in school every mistake was pointed out and compared to others. It was those old memories that had silently influenced her to failure meant shame.
After recognizing those patterns, she changed her behavior. She no longer waited for the “perfect” plan and started making small, messy steps. It was difficult, but every step made her feel a little stronger.
Riya decided to launch her business after a couple of months. It was not perfect, but it was real and that mattered.
The story of her life is a mirror to our own lives, and it tells us that very often, when we hesitate, it should not be taken as an indication of inactivity or laziness, rather it is a sign of fear trying to be recognized and healed.
Overcome Your Fear
People cannot get rid of fear just by forcing themselves. When the change is real, it is coming from identifying the emotions that created the fear. If you let go of the fear of being judged, you will stop trying to be perfect and start to be true to yourself.
If you often feel stuck or full of self-doubt, then you really need to get to know the root cause of this inside you.
Best Life Coach Sangeeta Sharma helps people understand and overcome the fears that stop them from moving forward. Through her Four Layers Alignment Method, body, mind, emotions, and energy, she guides people to find their inner strength. When you feel strong from within, you can see things clearly, make better choices, and take the next step with confidence.
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